Saturday, December 12, 2009

For your info


Here I am at 36 weeks. My good friend Kelly, she also took most of our temple pictures, was up and took some great ones. Stacey has them on her computer, but emailed me this one so I could get a post up. I think it looks like I'm hiding a beach ball under my shirt. Hey Syd, remember when we tried to sneak in beach balls at graduation? I guess I just needed to make it look like I was pregnant.

Anyways, this is also an informative post. A few weeks ago, my hospital had a close call with a pregnant woman and swine flu. She almost died and so they upped the security precautions. Only 4 people total will be allowed to visit me at the hospital, and that includes DJ. So far both of our mom's have claimed spots, and Kim is the 4th as long as labor isn't tomorrow. (I don't think it will be) Hopefully everything will go as smoothly as we have planned and prepared for so I will only be there for 24 hours after the birth. But for those family members (all of us right?) who love to hang out in the waiting room, it may not be worth the trip. DJ will be allowed to take the baby to the waiting room sometime while we're there, but again that depends on how the little Monster is doing. We will let you know of course. I also want to warn you that no one under the age of 18 is allowed in the maternity waiting room. I'm pretty bummed, but I understand the need to be so cautious.

We will welcome all healthy family and friends to come visit once we come home from the hospital. Just give us a heads up. Also, if we have the baby this next week, and recovery is good, we're planning on spending Christmas in Moses Lake.

I feel completely prepared. DJ and I completed our Hypnobirthing classes last night. I'm training myself to relax and let nature take control. The next time I post we will be parents to a cute little Redford Berezay!

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Demo Day!!

I am so excited. Saturday is going to be a huge day for our little house. Family and friends are coming over, equipped with hammers, to tear out all the lathe and plaster in our house. That means no more uneven, cold, ugly walls! Oh and a little blood splatter from previous residents will also be finally gone. (Yes I did say blood splatter, our house has a history, and we know what it is thanks to our neighbors.)

I will post before and after pictures so you can all feel like you were here to witness this historic event. And if your in the Spokane area and in need of getting rid of some aggression, our house Saturday morning is the place to be. Nothings gets rid of anger like being able to wield a hammer, or better yet a sledgehammer, at an unsuspecting wall. I guarantee you will get dirty, but I also promise you gloves, a mask, hot pizza and a nice cold Henry Weinharts rootbeer.

For those of you concerned, I will be outside working in our yard. I can't be in the house while the dust is flying. We have lead based paint on all the plaster so I will be safe outside breathing fresh air. For those of you not interested in destruction but interested in still getting some free pizza and rootbeer, you are more then welcome to join me outside.

I have been waiting for a year and a half to do this! Note to self, never live in a remodel again.

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Hmmmm...

I found this article today and couldn't help but think, "Hmmm..." Its about "Mormon Entrepreneur" from Las Vegas who uses calendars to poke fun at stereotypes about Mormons.

Hot Mormon Muffins Calendar Debuts

He has been excommunicated for his calendars called "Men on a Mission." Its a series of calendars of returned missionaries, all shirtless. He was excommunicated last year because the calendar "is not in keeping with the values espoused by the Mormon church." The funny thing, a friend of mine bought me one of these "Men on a Mission" calendars two years ago for Christmas. I threw it away because it felt funny to me that these RM's would pose for a calendar like this.

His latest round of calendars are called "Hot Mormon Muffins" and features 12 stay at home Mormon moms. Every picture depicts these women in classic pinup poses and outfits. The article interviews one of the "Models" about why she choose to be in the calendar. She thinks its funny, and that people should have a sense of humor.

Now I'm all about reaching out to the community, being a presence, and trying to influence society for good. But I can't help but think, these calendars do the exact opposite. If he truly wanted to cut down stereotypes about Mormon Moms, wouldn't he want the calendars to be tasteful and to show the women in modest dress? A good majority of Mormons are college educated, very involved with their children's schools, and have the potential to be a major force for good through the Relief Society.

Also, to show these moms in pinup outfits making muffins, and then to claim that this is to cut down stereotypes is quite hypocritical. If anything, hopefully these calendars will remind society that there is something beautiful about Mormon women and raise their curiosity enough to find out why that is.

Saturday, October 3, 2009

Fall has hit

I normally dread the coming of fall. My body is incapable of maintaining heat or I am incapable of dressing appropriately. I'm not completely sure, it may be a combination of both. I hate being cold and will tolerate the hottest of days knowing that at least I will not be cold.

Yesterday, fall came to Spokane. It is so cold outside, but I'm doing OK! I have a little built in heater that is making this transition to winter bearable.

But do not worry, I can't love fall, so I've come up with reasons why I'm still dreading the season change.

1. I cannot wear my Diane Von Furstenberg jackets. The summer of 2006 I spent with my grandparents at their golf course. Its up north of Calgary, so their summer was shorter. I didn't come home until the middle of October, so I felt like I missed summer. To make me feel better, I found three beautiful jackets designed by Diane of Ebay, bought them, and had them shipped home so they would be there when I got back. They are gorgeous and one of the few things that make me look forward to fall. Well, Diane did not design these jackets for the full tummied or breasted, so they're out. Here are some pictures of them. I'm sad you can't see the top one better, but this is the only picture I have of it. Its is called a trench dress. It wraps tight and then poofs out at the bottom and has lace on it. When I opened it my mom exclaimed, "Melissa you have to get engaged in that dress." So I did. I wish you could see the front of the third one. It is called a military jacket. The front double buttons from the neck down. That jacket gets the most wear, because it looks great with jeans and a long sleeve shirt.

2. I only have 2 and 1/2 months left to get ready for Monster's arrival. While I'm feeling ok with the pace I've been collecting items for the baby, my house is not ready. We need to tear out all the lathe and plaster upstairs, insulate, organize again, install our heating and carpets downstairs, paint the family room and bedroom, and get the baby's stuff set up.

DJ is loving his new job. He's now been home every night for a month and making as much as he did last fall when they reroofed the prison in Shelton. Our salaries combined will make it possible for the beforementioned to do list to get done.

Stacey said I needed to post about the baby. So this is what's going on. My tummy grows bigger every day. This is due to the fact that little Monster is pushing and expanding the space. My belly button is under constant attack and I fear may not be able to hold out much longer. I still do not have any stretch marks but am using a vitamin E ointment to make me feel like I'm doing something to contribute to that. While I was out with the missionaries last night doing a couple of less active visits, one of the ladies told me I looked so small!

Happy Conference weekend.

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

A matter of life

Many of you know I like to follow politics. I just like to know what is going on, who is doing what, and what decisions are being made. Lately I've been completely engrossed in the Health Insurance Reform Debate. I'm curious to know what others have learned, their personal experiences with the insurance companies and care providers, and what some of your ideas are for reform.

This is what I know. The cost of health care is too expensive. This can be blamed on all of us, but care providers truly do take the brunt of the blame. Some ideas for lowering costs are cap malpractice suit settlements, pay doctors a salary rather then per procedure, make health records electronic so that all your doctors can share test results rather then duplicating procedures, increase access to preventative care so that more costly illnesses can be detected early or avoided all together, allow hospitals to be able to verify citizenship before non-emergency care is administered, and create a panel, much like the ones that exist for defense and the economy, that tracks medical procedures and medicines and eliminates those that just don't work very well.

Personally, I think all of these are good ideas and should be included in any reform. If we want to slow down how quickly costs are going up, then we need to eliminate a lot of waste.

What I also know is that insurance companies have had too much power and not enough competition to keep costs low. Instead of offering us lower premiums by becoming more efficient, they lower costs by offering less coverage (my insurance just went up $500 a year for less coverage, my parents plan they offer the employees at Pioneer Pit Stop has been eliminated and they get to choose from small list of more expensive, less coverage plans), and denying coverage to someone because of a pre-existing condition. Pre-existing conditions can include pregnancy (some states have laws against this), cancer, disability, chronic problems such as heart defects. Also, many plans have lifetime caps on what the insurance company will pay. So if you become gravely ill, you could be cut from your plan because your care is costing them too much.

In the final reform bill, there needs to be clearly defined rules against the above mentioned health insurance practices.

Our federal and state governments are already facing deficits, and those will continue to increase as the baby boomers come closer to retirement. Lowering health care costs is just one piece of the puzzle, but it is an important piece as Medicare is a key part of American's retirement. It is also the job of the government to promote our "General Welfare". I believe that ensuring that all of us can receive medical attention when needed is a part of our General Welfare.

What has been so upsetting about this whole debate, is how amazingly stupid many of our so called journalists and politicians are. Thank goodness Sarah Palin resigned, she has no place in politics. Her comments about her son with Down's syndrome having to face a death panel if reform is passed is not only completely untrue, but does nothing to help reform take place. She may be against parts of the propossed plans, but to lie is completely immoral. I know for a fact that the largest provider of services for people with disabilities, Easter Seals, endorses the presidents reform ideas and have been actively participating in writing legislation specifically for people with disabilities. And then there's Rush, Fox News, Lou Dobbs, and a whole host of talking heads who continue to try to scare us from any reform at all. Oh and our gem of a House Minority Leader John Boehner (R) who is only interested in saving the insurance companies from the big bad government. But, who am I to assume that elected officials are supposed to look out for the people. Ah, and the wonderful Senator from Montana, Mr. Baucus (D). That man has so much money in him from the insurance companies its no wonder the plan out of the Senate Finance Commiittee is little more then a slap on the wrist and does not do enough to slow the rising costs of care.

I don't want the comments to be about the president. We can agree to disagree because I know most of you did not vote for him. However, common sense leads us to believe that reform in the health care field is vital as our country recovers from a major financial meltdown. Let's put politics aside and discuss health care reform.

Note: I did not mention the public option because I do not believe it will be in the final bill that passes the house and the senate. I do not see the point in discussing an option that most likely won't happen. The senate does not have 60 votes for a plan that includes a public option, and this bill will not pass with a simple majority in the senate.

Sunday, July 26, 2009

Monster's bump.

I'm 19 weeks today and I'm starting to get a little belly. I can still hide it with proper clothing, and I'm sure people who don't know me just think I'm bloated, but I wanted a picture to compare it to future pregnancies. I'm going to a prenatal yoga class with my friend Natalie and am visiting the chiropractor more regularly. I think I'm finally starting to get my appetite back, I even had a little ice cream last night! So here's the pictures. DJ wanted to take them by our new Subaru.

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Girl's Camp

This week my young women are at girl's camp. Well they're supposed to be, but most of my girl's are not interested so we actually only sent an investigator to camp. So sad that she didn't have better examples from our ward, but she's having an awesome time. Last night the YW ward Presidents were asked to come up and do a spirit hike with the young women. I was able to convince two of my Laurel's to come up with us just for the night. We were each assigned a value, and we were to share a testimony building experience we had with that value. Then we were to challenge the YW to commit to building their testimony of that value and to put a pine cone in our fire if they agreed.

I got Virtue. For those of you who do not know yet, Virtue is the new and 8th YW's value. It was introduced in December. The project for Virtue is to read the Book of Mormon. Because of the way the hike was set up, I was only able to hear one other leader's experience. She spoke about Divine Nature and gave the YW an awesome challenge to gain a better understanding of their Divine Nature. She used the song, "What Heaven Sees in You" as her experience.

I shared with the YW my experience with gaining a testimony of the Book of Mormon. I prayed and wrote my answer in my journal. My answer was that the people in the Book of Mormon really lived, that I should live by what they taught, and that the church was true. It happened when I was 14 and had finally finished reading it. It took me 6 years! I told them that this experience is one I rely on when I am tempted to live contray to the gospel teachings, or when it just seems easier to live a different life style then an LDS lifestyle. I told them I couldn't tell them what answer they would receive, because it would be personal between them and Heavenly Father, but that if they took the time to read and study the Book of Mormon, and then take Moroni's challenge and pray to know if it is true, that they would have an experience that will help them.

I wish I could have heard the other challenges, because I want to follow up with my Young Women on them. Hopefully they remember what they are when I see them next week and ask them.

Being with these Young Women and at camp reminded me of how grateful I am so have grown up in Moses Lake where the church members are so strong. We had awesome leaders, all of us did, no matter what ward we were in. But we all had awesome parents who knew the Gospel and also taught it to us. We have a lot of work to do in our ward.